Why I refuse to call my Clients ‘mama’

If you’ve had any experience in the blogging birth world, you might have noticed this odd trend in speaking about our clients. Here’s 10 reasons why I don’t:

1) The person giving birth isn’t my only client. Yup, that’s right I support ‘papas’ too as the family transitions to life with baby. My job is primarily to support the person carrying the pregnancy, but I do get hired by families to make the transition into parenthood easier…

2) Not all people who give birth identify as ‘mama’ because transgender people exist and have children. I don’t ever want to push potential clients away.
2) Sometimes the partner identifies as a ‘mama’ too and that could just get confusing.


3) I wouldn’t call my clients parents grandma or grandpa, nor would I call their partner papa or mama. Its a familial term an even though doulas do certainly get very close with families we are not actually family.

Let’s try this on for size ‘ I love looking after my grandmas too! They are usually so tired after the birth happens!’ Does this make sense? No. Just no!

4) Doulas have fought hard for recognition as a legitimate profession. You would not hear a nurse or an OB or a midwife calling their patients mama for a lot of the reasons listed above, so neither will I.

5) As a PSW I’m pretty sure I would have been in trouble if I called my residents ‘Nana’ or ‘papa’ because its unprofessional. I’m just saying…

6) I already have a mama. She is wonderful. I don’t need a new one

7) I truly respect who my clients are as a person. We are not just the roles and titles we choose to take on. 

8) It doesn’t feel right, it’s about as odd as calling a stranger ‘honey’ or ‘sweetheart’ it’s just….no. 

9) I am a professional doula who works hard to maintain the image of professionalism in my industry. Therefore I don’t have ‘mamas’ I have clients that hire me to care for them during birth and postpartum.

10) My final and biggest reason for not calling my clients ‘mama’ is because of the reality that not all of my clients will have a baby in their arms at the end of the journey, and they may or may not want to identify as a mother at that point. I accompany clients through abortions, miscarriages, still birth, relinquishment and apprehension.
I think that this trend is on its way out among professional doulas, and good riddance, because our clients need support, not cutesy names.

-Kate, your lovely, local, London doula

Title of my parenting book

We’ve all been there. Some ridiculous moment where you think WHY?

Chapters considered:

-Where the eff did this orange come from and why is it in your room?

-Do you even want a dresser? Or shall I just throw your clean clothes in the the corner for you?

-How did you even climb up there!?

– Why is there an olive and a quarter in the bath tub

– Its either poop or chocolate. Don’t smell it, assume its poop

– So that’s where my kid learned how to say that

– Toys, toys everywhere!
Got any chapters you’d like to add?

-Kate, your lovely local Doula, mom and blogger

Dancing for Birth

Have you heard of this phenomenal, energizing, connecting, educational and dynamic class for expecting and new moms? Read on



Dancing for birth combines intuitive childbirth education with…you guessed it! DANCING!

When I decided to join Sheina’s Dancing for Birth Class, I’ll admit I was nervous, because I hadn’t danced in years (well, outside of my kitchen when a scissor sisters song comes on- then I just can’t help myself). I was pretty sure I couldn’t dance at all (and I will vehemently state that I DO NOT dance in public situations), but I figured it would be a good motivation to get out of the house and active with my (then) babe in arms.

The best part of the class was getting to talk to other moms, while we had fun and exercised! I felt energized, and lighter after each class.

I loved every class, in fact I was sad when it was over, and If I was pregnant right now I’d be signing up for the next series… which happens to start very soon BTW (March 21 https://www.facebook.com/events/242210862851251/) hint hint 😉

Do you have questions for Sheina? Head over to her facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/DancingforBirthLondonOn%20/

or email her at sheina@dancingforbirth.com

Have you been to a dancing for birth class? tell us what you thought!


-Written by Kate, Local (London,ON) birth and postpartum doula, PSW, Student and mother of 3


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3 Tips For Changing Toddlers (peacefully)

Your cooing, drooling, adorable little bundle of joy who hardly squirmed or put up a fuss about diaper changes, bath time, or being dressed, has changed into a (still adorable) laughing, running, thrashing, autonomous human being.The days of a still, cuddly baby on the change table are long gone.

 You might feel frustrated and maybe discouraged if they decide to use their new found autonomy come diaper changing time. You might also begin to dread diaper changes, and maybe dislike how upset your little one becomes. I assure you, you are not the first parent to have a toddler running around with a saggy diaper (or better yet naked) because it wasn’t worth the struggle.
Here are 3 quick tips I have learned diapering 3 toddlers
1) Take Your Time

Nothing will kill your toddlers desire to be cooperative faster than you trying to rush them. Nothing. So, make sure you have a good 10-20 minute window of time if possible. If 10-20 minutes isn’t possible then having an established routine will be, so read on.
2) Find ways to make it fun

Making diaper time fun, could mean something as simple as a special toy on the change table or having a soother\ teething toy (or in our case a favourite baby lotion).Music, or even a favourite video or t.v show can help keep a toddler calm or distracted (and still)
3) Involve them as much as possible

It sounds counterproductive but it’s really not. Little things like letting your toddler pick their diaper or getting the wipes etc are helpful in keeping them calm and encouraging cooperation. Talk to your toddler about what your doing and why, throughout the process. Let them play with a wipe or have them throw the old diaper in the garbage. Or maybe they want to name their body parts, like their feet or toes while you clean them up.
I’m no expert but I do know what has worked with my 3 kiddos over the years. These tips may not work on the first try, especially if the child has formed a habit of fighting you during a diaper change, but over time your toddler will learn to cooperate more if you remain peaceful and calm in your attempts. Nothing ever works 100% of the time so just try new things and experiment with what works and what doesn’t with your toddler
And if all else fails and they are ripping off diapers and clothes constantly… You can always dress them backwards! Let us know if you have any other tips in the comments and I’ll make sure to include them in the next post!
More toddler tips to come. Make sure you check back for quick parenting tips from me and other local experts.
Written by Kate Williamson, Mother of 3, blogger, Birth and Postpartum Doula, and full time fanshawe student

Great Expectations Annual Diaper Drive

Thats right! We’re doing it (again!)


This is the perfect time to throw some education your way. Prepare to learn



Why do I do this? because I was that parent who couldn’t afford diapers. The month my first child was born we couldn’t afford rent or groceries and we turned to the food bank for help, they gave us 8 diapers, and I remember thinking ‘How can I make 8 diapers last?’

Now, I’m in a position to help. Join us as we raise awareness for a critical need in London. #helpababyoutlndn



Spring Diaper Drive

I am delighted to announce that I am organizing a diaper drive starting on March 21rst! and ending on March 31rst


All donations will go to The Rothholme Shelter and Lifespin, both of which serve families in crisis

Please join our group if you wish to donate: Join our facebook group

We will be accepting:

Unopened/opened Disposable diapers (larger sizes are preferred)

Gently used baby clothing

Cloth diapers

and unopened baby toiletries as well

Drop off Locations:

Unique Birth Services (March 2rst only)

Come to the Wholistic hall, enjoy an afternoon of pampering and drop off your diaper drive donation!

head on over to: www.facebook.com/events/433255880165378/

Rebirth Wellness Centre
256 Central Ave
London, ON
N6A 1M8

Nurturing Baby (home address-please check out the drop off list in the group)
Sweet Stellas (home address- please see the drop off list posted in the group)
More locations to come!


Great Expectations



Sweet Stellas


Nurturing Baby


Rebirth Wellness Centre


The Doula Chef



Expecting a baby in London Ontario